Last week I was having lunch with a client at The Root Cellar Cafe. If you are ever in San Marcos, you should definitely give this eatery a try, especially around breakfast time!
This client (who is currently pregnant with her fourth child) and I were talking about why birth is beautiful even when it can be full of intense, painful, and often terrifying moments, various fluid, poop, and general anxiety at times.
And then a prompt; What is the most beautiful moment during birth? And of course, the immediate response was,
"The moment of birth is the most beautiful. The first breath of new life. It is all about The Baby. "
I do agree that babies are delicious little beings worth everything that childbirth entails and more, but those bundles of joy are only part of this story.
What if our babies are merely a conduit to the most beautiful and opportune moment of our birth story?
Whether it be conscious or subconscious, this most poignant exhale is the moment when the choice is made.
The choice to let it be, to let go, to surrender, to leap into the unknown and believe that you will make it out again. To face head on, an existential death of sorts. The moment of deconstruction and dissolving into the earth with only the promise of resurrection from the ash.
This is the birth of The Mother.
This is the Hero's Journey and The Huntress will bring back the deer.
This support group began 6 years ago with a handful of new mothers in San Marcos. We met weekly in my living room and it was a safe space for open honesty about the joys and hardship of new motherhood. A place where you could meet others who were walking the same path and navigating the same bumps along the way, somehow eased daily anxieties about "getting it right."
And of course, we took the opportunities to get our babies together for fun activities and pictures with their first "baby friends".
Beginning this September, Full Circle has gathered up in the parish hall of St. Mark's Episcopal Church. With so much space and the best playground in town, the venue is very appealing not only for moms of newborns, but mothers with older babies and toddlers as well. We have weekly professionals from our community offering breastfeeding support, postpartum doula support, and informational sessions about nutrition, mental health, and natural remedies for common ailments. What began as a simple gathering in one person's home has and will continue to evolve into a community of support for new mothers in our area. What to get involved? Contact me! We need your talents and passion!
Tamara Downey is a local doula, educator and support resource for families in the hill country of Texas.